Jimmy Petruzzi explains New Behaviour Generator


New Behaviour Generator


“Bad habits are easier to abandon today than tomorrow”. ~Yiddish


Do you ever find yourself repeating certain types of behaviour over

and over again? Once you have repeated the behaviour you think dam

I can’t believe I did that, I can’t believe I have done it again.

All of us have habits, some of them serve us and some of them can be

detrimental and self destructing to ourselves and the people around

us. Do you have any habits you would like to change? are the certain

things you do that you are fed up doing, and have reached the point

you want to kick that habit.

Whether it’s biting your nails, lighting a cigarette, eating to much

chocolate cake, approaching a potential date you can’t get the right

words out, or any other form of destructive behaviour.

The good news it is possible to change negative habits very quickly,

with a technique we shall go through later in the module, so providing

you want to remove an existing habit it is possible to remove it very


Once a habitual behaviour has been learned it can be beneficial for

positive behaviours i.e. exercising, eating well, or be detrimental to

negative behaviour such as smoking and drinking. Sabotaging our

relationships, living with our limitations.



Examples of some positive and negative habits


Keeping your self in good shape by exercising = good habit

Lighting a cigarette when your stressed at work = bad habit

Tying shoelaces = good habit

Driving a car = good habit

Biting your nails = bad habit

Fear of flying = bad habit

Drinking excessive alcohol bad habit

Consciously we can distinguish a good or bad habit; most people know

smoking damages their health. And what foods such as fruit and

vegetables are good for them. However why is it that people carry on

sabotaging their lives by smoking, drinking, feeling negative?


If people are aware something isn’t good for them why don’t


they change?


Habitual behaviour is typically a way of creating order or structure to

day-to-day life. Habitual behaviour is learned and then becomes

automatic without the person being consciously aware of doing it.

Negative habitual behaviours can be detrimental to physical and

mental health, the most common being smoking and drinking. They

can last a life time and be detrimental to someone’s life.


Subconscious / Conscious Mind


The mind has two parts: the conscious and the subconscious. A useful

analogy is an iceberg. The conscious mind is the bit that sticks out of

the water. The subconscious mind is the bit hidden away underneath

the surface.

The subconscious is where all the things that you have learnt to do

without thinking is done.


For instance, when you first drove a car, you had to consciously work

out where to put each foot and how to use each new control. As your

driving skills developed, you handed more and more control over to

your subconscious mind. Now you are so proficient that you can drive,

navigate and talk to your passenger all at the same time!

Surprisingly, it is the subconscious that can be in control of our

behaviour most of the time. Once you realise that, a lot of things begin

to make sense. This is the reason people find it very difficult to stop

smoking – they have consciously decided that smoking is bad for their

health, costs a fortune, is ruining their complexion, etc. However, they

have not taken into account their subconscious reasons for wanting to

carry on smoking. Go back to the iceberg analogy; if the little bit at

the top wants to go one way and the huge bit at the bottom wants to

go the other way, guess who’s going to win?

Consciously we know smoking is bad for you, we know eating too

much chocolate makes us put on weight; we know drinking to much

alcohol isn’t good for you.

So why do we do it?

Once you understand about the role of the subconscious, you can

understand where a lot of odd behaviour comes from. People get stuck

in a rut because their subconscious doesn’t know how to change.

People can get disturbing thoughts or feelings because the

subconscious thinks that something bad is about to happen.


The conscious mind is only aware of a limited amount of


information at any given time, (i.e. try drive, talk on your


mobile phone and do your make up at the same time).The


unconscious mind is aware of everything else, the sound of the


cars outside, the breeze blowing through the window, the


sound of the TV in the background, your feet landing against


the pavement as you walk, the aeroplane flying overhead. The


million of memories we store in our mind from the day we are


born, birthdays, scoring that winning goal, your first kiss.


Roles of Conscious/Subconscious Mind



The conscious mind does your intellectual thinking. Is

responsible for your self-talk.


Your unconscious mind does your perceiving and feeling.


The conscious mind is logical. It likes things to make sense –

have a reason.

The unconscious mind is intuitive and can make associations of

information easily.

Your conscious mind is associated with the waking, thinking


The unconscious mind is associated with the dreaming (including

day dreaming), reflecting, meditating and sleeping state.

The conscious can voluntarily move parts of your body.

The unconscious can involuntarily move parts of your body.

Your conscious mind is only aware of the now.

Your unconscious mind is unlimited in time and space. It holds

all your memories and future constructs.


Our Behaviour


Because our behaviour is governed by our subconscious mind, think


about it, physiologically do we need to tell our finger nails to grow, do


we need to tell our hair to grow, our heart to beat, tell ourselves to


breathe, when we are hungry, feel like going to bed, do we need to


consciously tell our selves how to make a cup of tea.


We just do it almost like we are auto pilot. SUBCONCIOUSLY


Successful people, whether they are top athletes or entrepreneurs,


have mastered the power of their conscious and subconscious mind to


produce their success. Many of us haven’t tapped into the unlimited


potential of our minds because we lack the understanding of how our


minds actually work. When we decidedly focus our effort on creating


unity with the conscious and subconscious minds, we can achieve a


greater sense of happiness and success in our lives than we ever


thought possible.


That explains why people make conscious decisions at the start of


every January to go to the gym and get into best shape ever only to

give up by February; statistics say 90percent of people who join gym

give up in first six months. We have all the right intentions though the

sub conscious mind steers us away.

In order for behaviour to make change and last we must work at a

subconscious level ,if we are going to give up the cigarettes and stay

off them, then we need to change at a sub conscious level. How you

ask, how I can give up the chocolate, give up smoking, stop biting my

nails, stop sabotaging my success.


The New Behaviour Generator

is one of NLP’s simplest and most

powerful patterns for changing behaviour. Use it to…

Q Stop smoking

Q lose weight

Q get rid of anger problems

Q Break habits

Q Form healthier habits

Q Increase performance

Q overcome fears and anxieties

Q get more confidence

You see, the subconscious mind needs clear directions in a very

specific format if it’s going to motivate you to do something. Without

this “roadmap,” change can be very difficult. With this powerful

technique the new behaviour is easy and automatic. Old habits you

want to get rid of fall away; new healthy habits you wish to replace

them with take their place.

One of the things to bare in mind with this technique is by changing

your state of mind i.e. the state of mind your in when you eat that

chocolate cake, pick up that bottle, miss out on going to the exercise

class. You can change you state of mind from a negative one to a

more positive one, and in the more positive state of mind, you achieve

a more positive outcome.

For example you may link feeling stressed in a certain situation to

smoking, so by smoking you compensating for your feelings, be

changing your state of mind from feeling stressed, to feeling

empowered. The new state of mind produces a new outcome, so

instead of picking up a cigarette, in your new empowered state you

doing something more positive like eat a peace of fruit.

New Behaviour Generator



Technique to assist you in over coming negative behaviour and


unwanted bad habits.


First decide on a behaviour you would like to change and


decide on a new behaviour to replace it



1. Think of a time you demonstrated that behaviour you would

like, or choose a role model

that has the behaviour, skills or

abilities that you want for yourself.

I.e. confident, motivated, excellent public speaker.


2. Close your eyes and visualize yourself or that person in



Watch it like a movie in your mind.

See how you or they look, how you or they how they use their body,

how you or they their posture; how you or they how they stand, walk,

and sit. Pay close attention. Hear how you or they talk, what you or

they say, and how you or they say it.


3. Ask yourself: do you really want to adopt this behaviour to


change the old one?

Confirm that it is what you want for yourself.

4. See yourself as the model or yourself conducting this choice


of behaviour.

You have stepped into the role model’s place. You are

watching yourself do as the model does. You have taken over the role

and are acting exactly like your role model. Or imagine reliving a time

you did the preferred behaviour


5. Do you feel any negativity come up within you when you


watch yourself?

Any doubts that you are capable of doing as the

model does or producing your new behaviour? Go through them one

by one and adjust them, or adjust your action in the movie, until you

are happy with what you see and hear in this new behaviour. Feel

positive and confident in your abilities.



6. Mentally step inside the picture.

You are now inside your movie

image, looking through your own eyes. You are no longer watching

yourself. You are doing the new behaviour just as you did it in the past

or the model did it. How does it feel to perform this new behaviour or

be this person with these new behaviours? How does your body feel?

How is your posture? What do you hear? How does your voice sound

to you?


7. Imagine a future situation where you want to behave this



Put yourself there. Look through your own eyes at this situation.

You are the star of this movie and behaving in the new way! Is it all

working? Do you need to make any adjustments?


8. Open your eyes and come to the present moment.


9. Imagine that you are now the new you with the new



Get up and walk around as the new model. Walk the walk

and talk the talk as they say. How does it feel?

Building new pathways in the mind is a great way to adopt a new

behaviour, one way I like to put it is re patterning existing negative

thought process and replacing it with a more productive level of

thinking, even by doing this technique it can be powerful enough to

move us forward into a more productive thought process and outcome.